When I got married, I had to adjust to a lot of things that were very new to me. Things like not being able to just leave in the middle of the night to go to the gym or not being able to eat rice with chicken every night of the week. In the process, I somehow lost a lot of the things that made me who I was. The past couple of months I've been trying hard to get back some of those characteristics I've lost.
Tonight I finally saw a glimpse of my former self at my racquetball match. Then the guy I was playing aced me six times in a row to win the game and brought me back to reality. But the point is that it still felt good, and I realized that I can do most everything that I did before I was married. My priorities have definitely changed some, but that doesn't mean I have to drop everything.
So the journey continues to find a good balance between old and new. How do you find balance between both worlds? Or do the two worlds just eventually merge to become one?
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I think being aced six times in a row by a good serve was part of who were before you got married too! I seem to remember that the first time we played racquetball I aced you six times in a row with my unhittable serve! (That is until you figured out how to hit it, and I have never won since!!):)
The balance comes with time and conversation with your husband. You carve out time when you can each explore your own experiences and plan for trying new things together. Really, conversation is the KEY to a successful marriage. It is easy to have days where you don't get a chance to even touch base, but be sure to make time to connect, even if it is just through a "thinking of you" email or neck rub before bed.
Funny, but now that we've been married for 8 years and we have 2 kids, we're craving our early married days when there were just 2personalities to balance! Our "old" single selves have been replaced by our "old" newlywed selves. I guess it is all part of the life cycle!
Wishing you well as you work toward finding your balance! :)
I went through the same thing when I got married. I think just making sure that you take the time to develop your hobbies and skills like you are doing is what makes the difference.
It's good to revisit the "old" you and to combine your "old" and "new" priorities! Though it definitely can be a challenge.
I obviously don't know how to balance...but i'm looking forward to seeing how you do it!!!
What has happened to me, is you drop some of the stop from before you were married, and you gain more things now that you are married. But i only have 8 months experience lol so don't mind me.
I LOVE chicken and rice and would it eat it every single night if I could too.
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